Sexual intimacy and family life

   It is indeed a pleasure for me to write today about family relations. Once again we will focus on a particular subject that needs our views and analysis. Today the subject I will cover is quite sensitive and I really want anyone reading my blog to focus on what needs to be understood and applied instead of the awkwardness of the subject.  The topic is "Family intimacy and Family life". 

  

Family is such a beautiful gift Heavenly Father granted to mankind in which they grow and learn to become men of women of God. alongside the gift of having a family, he has granted us emotions and feelings that beautifully bind us to our loved ones in a unique way. These feelings are sacred and need to be handled properly to make the family unit strengthened and strong. More often, as God-fearing people, we tend to ignore that sexual intimacy between husband and wife is part of the gift Heavenly Father has given us. We prefer not to resolve or to talk about the problem with our partner when it arises because we find it too casual or sometimes we are ashamed of expressing what we feel. However, sex discussed only as sexual intimacy is a failure because sexual intimacy applied in bad settings affects the soul.

   I will now try to cite some of the challenges couples may meet while experiencing marital life and talk about some tips young people like me have to focus on when considering being married. First, it has been proven through research that men in general need to have physical intimacy before any emotional attachment. We have sex with our partners to connect in every way and to feel one soul with them. Once that is done we tend to feel close to our wives and we love them more. This is why it is sometimes difficult for men to obey the law of chastity because they have this natural desire to connect with their soul mate. on the other hand, women look for emotional attachment before physical intimacy. in most cases, she follows exactly the steps of the Relationship Attachment Model before yielding to her man. She needs to feel safe, warm, and close enough to "naturally" give herself fully. Another thing to consider is that the more woman has sex the less she feels attached to their partner. 

   With these two differences already, it self evident that incomprehension can rise up when there is no communication before living together. The second factor that can be problematic in marriage is that it has been demonstrated in research that the peak of sexual arousement for men and women is different. For instance, men have it when they are 18 to 19 years old whereas women have it when they are between 30 and 35 years old. While this second point with the other seems to go against the harmony of having a peaceful home, they provide beautiful opportunities to communicate about problems with partners. they also help us understand that marriage intimacy is something that needs to be unwrapped slowly and at a pace that each other can bear. 

I have at the beginning of the article talked about young people not yet married. one could ask what can young people take out of this since they are not yet married. the answer is everything. Preparation before marriage is something so much important to do that many who meet challenges in their couples today regret not having known so well the partner they are with. When we go beyond the physical beauty and body the person we are dating has, what are the other qualities that can attract us to get married to him? what kind of marital life will you want to have once you are married. I sincerely promise that considering these questions will help you look for what you need and not what you want.

          To conclude, a good marriage is not just natural, it is supernatural. which is to say that partners need to invite The LORD GOD in all aspects of their lives to have a productive and enjoyable marriage time in their whole life. It is my prayer that you find that peace and the stability good marriage brings In the name of the one who gave his life for us Amen!