Preparing for Marriage

      Marriage, this simple but powerful word over centuries has been used in various times and settings we can think of to express the love and the biding of a man and a woman in this mortal life. Although this definition, today in our modern time, has been twisted to take a suitable meaning to human ears, we should nevertheless remember that marriage between a man and woman has been ordained of God and is the channel through which Heavenly Father sends his spirit children to experience mortality and go back to him. Because it is something of much importance, God has provided a way for marriages to last forever through the power of the priesthood authority. In the scriptures, we learn that God married Adam and Even and everything that is done by the power of God is to last forever. That's why members of the church of Jesus Christ believed that marriage can last for time and eternity. but before we go too far away from our topic let us come back to what we will be talking about today. Today's article unlike the others will not be focusing on the family and its characteristics but will focus mainly on how to find the right person through dating. So my audience will be young single adults who are looking for the right partner to get married to.

                                                          HANGING OUT vs DATING 

Single adults nowadays go through a hard time finding their soulmates. they are too often worried by the similarities they want to have with the person they are going out with which makes them miss some wonderful opportunities they could have gotten. Sometimes, the problem is not even the person they go out with but the way they go out with. Young single adults prefer to hang out instead of dating. they might not be aware but these two ways of going out are different. First, hanging out brings anxiety because we don't know what people's intentions are. It does not enable a serious partner seeker to outline the qualities of the man or woman he or she wants to see to decide to start a serious relationship. The partners hide through other friends to spend time with the group thinking that will be enough to proceed with a relationship. but what they forget is that time isn't the biggest factor, experiences are what are the most important. Dating on the other hand does the contrary by following the 3P rule: paired off, planned, and paid for. it provides the right settings in which the partners feel special and important. it adds more value and gives some precious information about the person they are going out with. Indeed it is inspired. When the date is done properly by using the 3P rule, it throws back to the young lady some precious information I want us to analyze: 

Paired off: That means he is intentional with me and I am important to him. I will be his priority in the marriage 

Planned: Some effort was put into it, showing some maturity. he is considerate about what I will feel.                   he wants me to be happy.  He will be a loving husband who will plan activities with his family.

paid for: he will work harder to meet the needs of the family. He will protect his family against financial crisis.

Although these assumptions are made out of theories, the point here is to show how we can come to know someone who wants to marry out of the special times we spend together.

             To conclude, it is important to remember that before we get to love deeply we need to know more than we trust, trust more than we rely upon and rely upon more than we trust someone. We need to date as many people as possible to know who is the closest to the one we want to spend our life with based on what we learned during the cherishing experience of dating.