Family Culture.

           One Year ago, I made a constatation of how frequent it was getting to see many of the people I knew, who were joyfully married getting divorced. It also appeared to me that what seemed to be inconceivable in the minds of many for decades, because of frequency has started to become accepted as reasonable and a normal thing to do.  As such, getting divorced is no more something society wants to avoid or prevent by helping the couple who is struggling with a family relationship but it has become part of life.  Although having this blog set was part of a school assignment, what made me excited was the fact of contributing to reteaching the family values that the world is losing. That's why this blog focuses so much on the family because I want the readers to make wise family decisions and to be informed about how to start developing the right family culture that leads to Happiness and peace. 

          Family culture as mentioned above according to Wikipedia is "an aggregate of attitude, ideas and ideals, and environment, which a person inherit from their parents and ancestors."  In other words, it is the sum of attitudes, historic beliefs, and values passed through family lines. Some of the characteristics of the family culture are that it keeps on changing and shaping itself because of the different types of personalities of the family members. Secondly, as it gets well-established,  it gets slightly influenced by society's culture. This slight impact of society's influence on family cultures teaches us that where we live, the race we belong to, or the country we live in does not necessarily determine the exact family culture we will have. So, if these things stated previously don't impact the family culture, how can someone who got the wrong or let's say negative family culture gets to change it and establish a healthy one? 

        Before diving into the answer to the questions asked, let us look at four particular cultural attributes: Values, Norms, Traditions, and Conformity.

                                                                                    VALUES 

           According to the council of foundations, "The values of the family set the basic tone for the family foundation. They inspire the choice of mission as well as the foundation’s policies and practices. Typically, the values of the individuals who have created the family’s wealth predominate."  Each family needs to have the values they stand for. they need to defend it and teach it to their children by being good examples. 

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                                                                                   NORMS 

          Norms are the unspoken or spoken rules of a culture that govern behavior. Long-time exposure to these standards creates an invisible barrier that encourages family members to dress, act, and talk a particular way. Norms provide information for all areas of life, not just etiquette. These guidelines help family members navigate everyday life inside and outside the home. more than just guidelines for acceptable behavior, norms provide an outline for what is and isn't appropriate.

                                                           

                                                                       TRADITIONS

All families have traditions passed down from generation to generation. in the past, when extended families all lived in one place, traditions were incorporated into daily life and maintained by family elders. When family branches go their separate ways and elders die, traditions often die with them.

                                                                          CONFORMITY

Family cultures vary widely in their tolerance for differences. Some demand fidelity to cultural values and see any deviation from the norm as a threat to family well-being. Some even cut ties with family members who hold different philosophies or lifestyles.

To conclude, it is important to know the four attributes mentioned to create our own family cultures. while it takes time and effort to build the right settings for a happy family, we should not forget that developing family relationships with the members enhances the chance to build a strong and happy family relationship.